It is sort of crazy to say. Our family of 4 went to a family of five very fast. We met our daughter Monday Feb. 4th and we brought her home Feb. 6th. February 7th was her 1st Birthday!! So yes a whirlwind of a family addition, lol.
We are in the trying to find our new normal stage, trying to adjust to having a baby in the house, schedules, food preps, toy pick ups, diaper changes etc. It is so crazy as most people would think since I have done foster care for years that I would have this down pat, but truth is you lose all the skills very quickly and have to relearn things. You have to relearn that every time you leave the house you need to grab the diaper bag, not only grab it, but make sure it has diapers, snacks, milk etc. in it. I am trying to figure out how to get my treadmill time in and showers, and laundry and all my other normal household duties with a child who especially right now just needs me on the floor playing with her. You quickly forget. I am learning that the freedom of dropping Kope off at school and having a couple hours kid free to get errands done is gone, cause that is nap time. It is all new again and we are figuring it all back out. Karis is soooo worth it though. Every time she smiles or laughs, makes all of it worth it. We did not get the first year of her life to build those bonds and trusts and so we are starting now. Anwsering her every cry, picking her up, cuddling her, feeding her, learning her ques to every thing. It will take a while, but the bond and trust will come and then she will blossom into the little girl that I can see under the scared, confused outer layer right now.
We are limiting people in and out of our house and trying to just stay close to home. We are doing our best to make Karis feel secure and teach her that Mommy and Daddy, and Sister and Brother lover her so much and will meet her needs as they arise.